If you like going out alone to pick up a girl, you usually will be in the pub or the club. Nightlife is an excellent opportunity to get in touch with new people, and also with women that you might like.
In fact, many men feel difficult to go out alone. Going to the club is, of course, exactly what you should do if you come there alone to hook up with a woman.
Fortunately, you can do something. I have listed five tips with which you dare to go out successfully alone.
You Are Nothing without Social Confidence!
If you deeply don’t trust yourself that you are worthy of a woman, you will never get her.
She will sense that you feel like you are not level with her.
She will reject you.
You can use social self-confidence in every area of your life.
It is useful for your friendly partnership, your family gathering, and of course your love relationships.
Remember… Most people don’t pay attention to you at all
One of the main reasons people find it uncomfortable going out alone is that they feel like everyone is watching them.
They think everyone can see that they are all alone in the club.
You probably understand rationally that this is not the case, but this is still running through your head.
But just think for a moment:
When you go out, especially when you do that with a group, do you pay very much attention to the people around you?
Would you notice if a guest was alone in the club?
Would you look at him and draw all kinds of conclusions about his life?
I think there is a good chance that the answer to all these questions is a clear NO.
If someone looks after you that much in the club, then that person is probably alone too, so who cares?
If so, why would other people pay attention to you that way? I understand that it may feel different and that it can make you insecure.
But in reality, most people don’t pay attention to you when going out. They won’t even notice that you are there, let alone that you are alone or that you are friendless.
Once you realize this, you will likely be a lot less insecure. It allows you to pick up on women much better.
Let go of the idea that everyone sees everything you do and is judging you. You certainly feel much looser, freer, and more confident. It then becomes a lot easier to approach a nice woman and have a conversation with her.
Make sure you get into a social mood before going out alone
Maybe you know it: you plan to go out at night and spend the rest of the day chilling out in your house by yourself.
When the time comes that you go out, you don’t feel like it at all.
Subsequently, little will come of your evening. You don’t manage to have nice conversations, and after a while, you go home.
If you recognize this story, it was probably because you weren’t in a social mood.
It doesn’t work if you don’t talk to people all day and then suddenly throw yourself into the hypersocial nightlife.
You don’t have the right mindset for that at that moment.
This ensures that you have more difficult conversations, and certainly not start hitting on women.
Going out after being alone all day is like running a marathon after not getting out of bed for a week.
To successfully go out alone, it is important to get into such a social mood first.
There are several ways to do this. For example, you can chill with some friends just before you go out.
It doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you have social contact with others.
Learn how to regulate your emotions here.
# Come and stay in a social mood
It is also important that you do not let this social mood disappear before you are well, and truly in a club.
In the nightlife, there is a good chance that you will have to queue for a while. It maybe takes just a little too long, and you are also not talking to anyone. Then there is a good chance that you will have completely lost that social mood as soon as you need it.
One way to avoid this is to just chat with other people in line.
Of course, not everyone will be waiting for this, but you will be surprised how often you end up with a nice conversation.
If this does not work, it is always better to have a phone conversation with someone than to do nothing at all. Of course, it is also just a good idea to avoid queues.
If you do this, you will find yourself in a much more sociable mood once you get inside. You feel more confident and are much more likely to start a conversation with someone.
In short, you’re much more likely to hit on women successfully when you’re in a social mood.
Do you find it difficult to approach women?
Working on your social self-confidence could then be a good first step.
If your social self-confidence is down because of the fear of starting, conversations will be awful.
Make sure you are always talking with someone
You now know that a social mood is very important if you want to successfully go out on your own.
I have already mentioned that such a social mood can disappear again if you do not talk to people for too long.
This applies in line, but also afterward.
If you don’t talk to anyone in the pub or the club for too long, that social mood will disappear like snow in the sun.
Also, you will simply feel less confident if you are on your own all the time because you will come across as less social.
So it is important to talk enough with people while going out. I would advise you to always be in conversation with someone.
If necessary, it is the bouncer, or the toilet attendant.
Anything is better than standing in a corner a little awkwardly. Although people don’t pay much attention to you, as mentioned, this will start to stand out at a certain point. Moreover, it is not good for your social mood and your self-confidence.
Use your phone ONLY as a last option
It is a typical 21th-century phenomenon that people immediately reach for their phones as they feel shy or insecure. That way you can give yourself an attitude, and you don’t have to talk to others.
I understand that this is great if you just want to pretend that drunk, screaming homeless person isn’t there on the subway.
But I wouldn’t recommend doing this while going out alone, at least not if you want to hit on women.
When you sit on your phone, you immediately send a very closed signal to the outside world. No one will come up to you to chat if you are doing something else.
Moreover, it is only more noticeable that you are alone in the club. Someone who is dancing alone does not stand out. But someone who is constantly on their phone comes across as if they are not having a good time.
If you want to hit on women, you shouldn’t seem like you want to go home.
On the other hand, I also understand that it is an easy way to give yourself an attitude. I don’t want to take that away from you completely.
In some scenarios, it is better to sit on your phone.
Otherwise, you should just stare into the distance with your arms at your sides, as if you are out of your mind.
Read 7 tricks to chat with a girl on WhatsApp.
When can you use your phone?
This is the case…
When you are waiting in front of the toilet,
Or when you have to wait a long time for your drink on a side of the club where no one else is.
You can use your phone, but only as a last resort.
Incidentally, a telephone is a very good tool for deliberately pushing someone away. Maybe you are having a conversation with a woman you don’t like at all, but you don’t dare to tell her that right away.
A good way to make sure she leaves herself is to reach for your phone just a little too often. After a while, she’ll get the hint, and she’ll leave you alone.
Practice as much as you can
As a final tip, I would like to say that picking up women while going out is just a skill.
You can improve every skill with practice. By just going out on your own more often, you will automatically get better at this too.
It means that you can increasingly take a nice woman home after going out.
It will also make you a lot more confident because you will become more and more convinced of your capabilities.
In addition, you will learn how to have fun on your own while going out.
You will not be able to take a woman home every time.
Keep trying since you are having a good time.
That’s them, five must-have tips that will go a long way to helping you go out on your own and hook up with women.
It may not be much easier for you at the beginning, but keep trying! Keep these tips in mind, and you will see that things will improve on their own. In any case, I wish you a lot of success!